Wednesday, April 30, 2008
That's all folks
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
12 hours
Monday, April 28, 2008
Final lap
Sunday, April 27, 2008
New life with new room
Saturday, April 26, 2008
Name changed
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I'm so lucky
Now to my case proper: I'd like to just bitch about a call I got this morning. Basically I've been getting calls from this jewellery company called Bi Er Si Chu Bao Gong Si (read it in chinese, duh!). They first called me like 2 months back to first tell me that I had bought something with them (or was it that I sign up for some coupon thingy), so I was selected to take part in some lucky draw in Malacca. And they wanted to invite me to the lucky draw. Of course deep inside I know that I never bought anything of any sort, its so obvious its a scam, but I just played along and told them that I couldn't make it because I was too busy. And they replied that its ok, they will send in the lucky draw on my behalf and will let me know of the outcome. About a week later, they called again to say that I am super lucky that my lucky draw had actually won some top 5 prize in the draw (oh wow, lucky me!). And the prize was I don't know how much worth of gold, if I remembered correctly its quite a few thousand dollars. So they asked if I can make it down to their office somewhere in Malaysia or Hong Kong to collect the prize, and of course I said cannot. So they gave me another option. To open an account in HK, then tell them the account number so that they can transfer the cash worth of the gold into that account. They made it so real, even have their own website and created for me an online account and password. And I continued to play along to say that I'll do that in a few days time, now busy. One or two weeks later they called again to ask me if I've done the account, and I said no, I am busy now. And again they asked me to hurry up because everyone else has collected their gifts already. And then every few days they call me to ask if I've done the account. I thought they should have gotten the idea that I was not prepared to be fooled by them already, and they should just give up, but nooooo, they just kept calling. So this morning, when I had just awoken I got a call from them again to ask if I've done the account. Having just woke up (and I am telling you, I hate talking too much when I just wake up, I need some stoning time to warm up), and being in the middle of my exam period, this call is the last thing I need. So I just told them nicely that I haven't done my account, and they asked me if I'm really interested. So I tell them why not you give the prize away to another person or to the charity. It was really pissing me off already. Then he said,
"So now you want to give away the prize? Are you sure?"
I said, "Yes, give it to someone else"
Him, "So all this while you are just playing with us"
Me, "Huh?!? Can you say that again I can't hear properly"
(I really couldn't hear properly, he was speaking too fast, I only managed to figure what he was saying after the entire conversation)
Him, "You @#%#^#&$%&$&"
(I don't know what he was saying, but I reckon he was scolding me)
and finally, *click* he just hung up on me. What a bitch!!! One of the Ultimate things that I hate is getting hung up on the phone. If its because you hp got no more battery, or you accidentally press the wrong button on your phone, I can understand. But not hang up in the middle of a conversation. Ultimate rudeness that I cannot stand. If not for the fact that I do not have his number (his number doesn't show on my hp) I would have called back and give him a piece of my mind. That phone call left me fuming. Luckily I had already arranged to meet up with Imran for shopping, or my whole day would have been spoilt by that bastard. So all you people out there, do becareful if you gets calls from these fuckers. Btw did I mention that I got another call not too long ago, supposedly from Ceasers hotel in Macau (I've did a check, this hotel doesn't even exist in Macau). Apperantly I also signed up some thingy which I never can remember, and this time I was invited to attend the lucky draw ceremony in Macau, its like wow, my life is changing. I'm getting luckier by the day, because this time I won a BMW in Macau. How lucky can I get. Well this time they said that because I was not a Macau citizen, so they would convert the value to cash and issue a check to me. And this would be sent out by their lawyers. So once I received the check, I was supposed to call the hotel and let them know that I have received the check. Of course I didn't receive anything, and so the last time they called me to ask why haven't I call the company (duh! because I didn't get anything, like they don't know). So I told them that I did not get any parcel or check, and they told me to call their lawyer to check with him. I of course didn't bother to call, one reason being, its a foreign number. This means I'll have to make an international call, another reason being, the number she gave me had the same first 5 number. Well I don't know about Macau, but in SG (I think its also the same in many countries) the first few number of an area is the same to represent the district, of course there are a few exceptions. But generally, the first few numbers of the telephone number of the same area should be the same. Having 5 numbers similar is indicative that there is a high chance that they are very near each other, or even the possibility that they may even be sitting next to one another. Alamak, they should at least try to make this more real lah. So I can't be bothered with them, they'll probably call again and this time I'll make sure whoever is on the line gets it from me, assholes. Think I better call Starhub to inform them of all these scams around, maybe even write to the papers. More people should know about this to prevent anyone from falling into their traps. Yup, I'll call Starhub tomorrow, thats exactly what I'll do, also to ask them for an explanation as to why my number is being given out so easily to everyone. Not only these scams, I've been getting calls from insurances companies, banks, loans, credit cards, all sorts of rubbish. And they like to call at the most inappropriate timings, like when I'm in the toilet doing my business or when I'm in a lecture. Utmost Irritating!!! Argh!
Okie letting that out makes me feel so much better. Enough of bitching today. I'll save some for next time!
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Fashion
David Tutera
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Broken alarm
Saturday, April 19, 2008
A little too friendly?
Anyway let me try to remember what I was saying, I'll just give summary of everything, tired to repeat everything. Well I got an email today from my ex-boss from MHA - Pauline. Yup she was telling us that her NS boy was getting a little freaky these days. He's been coming over to her cubicle to tell her about his problems, everything from at home, to in office, outside. Basically all his problems. So Pauline does get pretty busy at times, so sometimes she'll just give him some words of encouragement or just some simple ideas, mainly targeted at trying to get him to go away. But it seems that he's taking them very seriously! To the extent that he'll sometimes message her late in the night with thank you messages and things like that. Hmmmm a little freaky right, and did I mention that Pauline is married with 2 adorable kids (or brats, hahaha Pauline's so gonna kill me if she read this. She's got 1 boy and 1 gal). I think there is a line between giving some counseling advice and getting freaked out by the people you counsel. This boy seems to fall into the latter category. And this has been going on for quite some time. Pauline was already talking about this since we met her during CNY, just that the problem seem to have gotten worse now.
I've of course advised Pauline to talk to him about it, just tell him that maybe there's a problem here. And of course I suggest that she does this subtly, definitely not the direct approach. Later the 想不开, who knows what he'll do. From the looks of it, he's a pretty emo person, so cannot be too direct with him. I suggested Pauline to ask his office buddy to talk to him or something, to find out if he needs any help. I'm not boasting about my batch here, but from the feedback I get from my ex-bosses (not only Pauline, I'm in contact with some of the rest as well), it seems that the quality of the boys coming to MHA have gone down a little. And there seem to be more weird people in MHA these days. For instance, calling this kid in question a weirdo is definitely not an overstatement. Well thats that, hope Pauline can settle this soon, but then again if she settles this, then we would not have anymore interesting stories to hear when we meet up next time, hahahaa.
Friday, April 18, 2008
Men's problems
Thursday, April 17, 2008
1 down, 1 more to go
Anyway just before I left home for the paper yesterday, I took some photos of myself (who else) and some of the things I bring into an exam. I thought it would be interesting to blog about of the exam must-haves for me, and some of the taboos that I have during the exam period. Hmmm lets see if we have anything in common....
One of the must haves in an exam is definitely my water bottle. Don't want to be like thirsty inside. But then again, drinking too much will result in going to the toilet too much during the paper (don't look at me like that, it happened to me before)


How in the world would anyone go into an exam without a pencil case. Erm I know my pencil case is a little bigger than others, but I prepared everything inside. I think I got at least double of every stationary.

Notes. These are super important especially if its an open book exam. Well if its not, then you can read a little bit of it just before the paper (while ya waiting for the hall door to open), though I do not recommend this. I'm just afraid that I'll see some points that I did not read about before in my whole life.

This is quite important to me. Tissue paper. Sometimes my nose just lose control in the exam hall, and it can get quite messy and irritating when this is not present.

Of course, no exam is complete without Brand's essence of chicken. I must have one of these before the paper. I don't know why, but guess its a tradition thingy.

Never underestimate the power of the air con in the exam hall. Always bring a sweater to guard against the cold. Shivering throughout the paper is not going to help you during the paper in any way. Mmmm I do have a lot of sweaters at home, this is just one of the many. I have this thing about buying sweaters, been telling myself to stop buying (I'm in SG anyway, its like hot here, don't know why I like to buy them so much)

This is me just before I left my place. I took a nerdy photo of myself with the glasses on (I don't wear glasses, those are my dad's glasses, haha), and another photo without the glasses. If there's one thing thats very important during exam days, its grooming. I always take the trouble to make sure that my hair is ok, and that my shirt and jeans match. This is very important during exams, I believe that when I look good, I feel good, annd I'll do better in the paper, hahahaha. Well at least I hope so. I have quite a few taboos for exams, think I'm actually pretty phan tang. Another thing about exams is that I don't cut my finger nails for hair when it is very near the exams (even more so during the exam period). I believe that I know everything at my fingertips, so if I cut my nails, I lose some knowledge. Haha, sometimes I wonder how I manage to come up all this. And I'll always make sure I go to the Guan Yin temple at bugis before the exams to light some joss sticks and pray for the papers. I admit that I'm not a very religious person, I use to attend an Anglican school for 12 years, my kindergarten is in a church, my brother is christian, my family is largely buddhist, I used to go to sunday services of my friend's church (my very good friend, Alvin, who used to ask me along), I go for many of my friend's cell group gathering. From the looks of it, I going in the direction of the chapel, but nooooo, I'm still a free thinker, and I think I'm more inclined towards the buddhist side ( my parents play big part in this). Not only for the exams, usually if there is anything big that's coming up, like our family going for holiday or something like that, I'll go to the Guan Yin temple to pray, just for health and safety. Well it doesn't hurt right.


After the paper we went for kopi (they had lunch/dinner/high tea, whatever you want to call it) at canteen A. DY was eating this steak that he can't bite off, he ending up looking at the chinese ghost with the long tongue 黑白无偿, hahahaha.

So now its just one more paper to go, and thats 14 days aways. Gotta also prepare for my last presentation, just got my date, its on the 7th of May at 1pm. My big day!!!!
Tuesday, April 15, 2008
IKEA
Then when I came home just now, I tried to study another chapter before going to sleep, so that I would have less to cover today, I still remember the section on sorption pumps. Well I thought it looks a little important, so I went ahead to memorise the use of it. Then after that I went to check the notes that my friend wrote. In big words it read," Sorption pumps - Not impt". WTF!! Damn it, wasted my time and brain cells on that topic. Well thats the problem when I don't attend class myself. Ok gotta sleep early (not very, its already like 3am now), another long day today. Today's D-day eve. So I'll have to make my final preparations for the war!!!!
Sunday, April 13, 2008
My old blog
Anyway I have no idea how long my old blog will be around still, but the blog address is www.darkwing1983.blogspot.com
Why???
Final exams in 3 days!

My Tazmanian Devil toy





Friday, April 11, 2008
STOP BUYING ANIMAL FUR
Webby: http://www.furisdead.com/feat/ChineseFurFarms/
omg, I can't get the picture outta my head now, damn. I think the fur trade is not the only trade in the world that is gruesome, so the next time i buy something, I'll remember to think of how the product came about.
Thursday, April 10, 2008
One Million Dollars
For Sean, he said,
" Wah if I strike Toto 1 million dollars I go buy a unit in the condo opposite Sentosa. Very nice!"
then DY said,
"Aiya, if I got the million dollars, I buy a island. Malaysia got some islands seliing for like 700k. There are even some islands selling at 200k, but thats in Canada."
Of course I made the most practical suggestion, I said,
"Erm if I had a million dollars the first thing I would do is to withdraw everything out, take a photo with it and sleep with it for a night. Then I'll decide what to do with it."
Hahaha. Well that comment drew some laughs from the guys. But I'm not kidding, I really mean what I say. How many times in your life will you be able to see a million dollars in cold hard cash. I think its worth at least a photo, haha. Then I suggested to draw the money out in $2 bills (so that the volume looks more), so I can paste it all over my room. Haha. But of course those are just dreams. Something you can think a about once in a while, then later you'll still have to get back to reality. Money doesn't fall from the sky, you've gotta work for it. You can strike Toto and 4D, but have you considered how much you have already invested in it thoughout your life. It could be much more than a million. So SL, quit dreaming and start working. Exams in 7 days!
Tuesday, April 8, 2008
More job searches underway
If you've noticed that the timing of this post to the previous one is super close, and that it is impossible for me to write such a long post in such a short time, you are right, hahaha. I had wanted to post this together with the previous post, but at the last minute I decided to create a separate post instead.
You guys know that I've been actively looking around for a job lately, I've been posting quite a few blogs on it. Yesterday morning went to BAT for the first round of interview, it was a test of english and maths. The first paper was the english paper, we had to read several short passages and answer yes/no/don't know questions. It is mainly to test how well we can abstract information from readings, given a short time frame. The second paper was the maths paper. For this they gave us many different types of graphs and index and we're required to answer questions that need us to abstract information from the tables. It is to test how well we can process information and our analytical ability.
The first test was actually not as difficult as I thought it would be (remember SIA), but I guess time was a big factor. I didn't have time to look through my paper after I had finished. And I could not find answers to some of the questions. The maths test, erm I wouldn't say easy, but its not difficult. Again the main issue is the time. Most of the question were do-able, a few needed more thought, but overall it was not difficult. Sadly I didn't manage to finish the whole paper, I think I left like 4 questions blank. Haiz, but I'm really not banging on getting a position at BAT. Not that I'm not interested, but that competition is very high. There so many people taking the test yesterday, and we are not the only batch. There have been a few batches ahead of us already. So I guess that would be the last time I see BAT. Haiz~ Another job opening is being recommended by Aunt Susan. Her ex-colleague is working in Morgen Stanly, so she helped to ask if there are any openings there. Well, it appears that there are openings and Aunt Susan ask me to see if any position interest me, so she can help to submit my resume to her friend. I've just sent to her my choice, but again its interest vs practicalism. I hear from my bro that his friend had applied to Morgen Stanly before, and they had 13 rounds of interview. His friend failed at the 8th round. OMG. What a waste of time. Seriously I cannot think of a reason of having 13 rounds of interview. I know that every one wants to be able to hire the best candidate, some one who can fit into the company culture straight away and work hard for the company. But is 13 rounds of interview really necessary? I agree that just one interview might not be sufficient to see how a person is going to fit into the company, but I think 5 rounds is a pretty good gauge already. For 13 rounds, its like you are getting interviewed by every department head in the company and even before you join the company, you've already know everyone there. Okie just based on the perception of one interviewer is not enough, but don't you think 5-8 or 9 or more people (and mind you, when I say 1 round of interview, it does not mean that everytime its 1-to-1, it can be 2-to-1 or 3-to-1 or even more) is pretty assuring. You can have up to 300000 interviews, there will always be something that you don't know about the interviewee, so why don't we just give them the benefit of doubt. I know that a lot of companies will disagree with me on this, but I don't care gonna say it away. Having so many rounds of interviews is a waste of time for both the interviewee and interviewer, it is also a waste on resources of the company. I think it should not be a case of asking for an interview for the sake of having an interview, but only call for more when absolutely required. If by level 5 or 6 is enough, then stop there, there is no need to do 13 rounds just for the sake of making up numbers.
After being in the job market of quite a while this year, I must admit that it is a little demoralizing. I've applied to countless companies. Very few replied, even fewer had asked me to go for an interview. And I almost failed through all my interviews. When I sit down and think to myself, I really don't know what is wrong with me that makes no one want to hire me. I know I do not have excellent grades (well they always say that grades arn't everything, and that they don't just look at grades), but I think my grades are decent. I do not look good, but I don't look terrible either to make them dislike my appearance. I think I do present myself alright in front of the interviewers, giving them almost whatever information that they need about me. So what is wrong with me??? I think I'm suffering from the median problem. I'm like in the situation where I'm not the best candidate, but neither am I the worst. So I'm like part of the group of people who fall in the center of everyone. And it just happens that this is the largest group. Haiz~ And the biggest problem is if you try to apply for a job in a big company, they only want the best (which is not me), and if I lower my expectation to apply for a lower scale of job I get funny comments by people around me on why I choose this type of job when I am a graduate. Sometimes I'm a little tired by all these comments made by others. I know that they mean well, but it just gets annoying when people who do not seem to understand the situation. Just recently, my youngest uncle (xiao gu), was talking to me and he told me,
" aiya don't look for job already lah, come out and ping yourself."
Come on lah, thats your idea because you have the money to do it. My reply was of course,
" Please leh, no money I use what to start."
Then we were talking about the job market, and they were asking me on what I felt on an engineer's job, so I told them what I felt. Things like its mundane and dry, and that the pay and bonus are usually not very high. And Xiao gu had to comment again. He said that why are we asking how much the company can pay us for our bonus. Right now you should be looking at what job you are doing and learn as much as possible then change to another job, and then your pay will rise. Please, you think I don't know that. But again its back to the question of practicalism. Ideally for a first job we would like to choose a job that allows us to learn as much as possible. But if this type of job is only to pay me $1000 a month should I take it up. You can say that in the long term it will benefit you greatly, and ultimately you'll probably be earning more, but who knows about the future. Many times he makes comments based on his own family financial situation. He is rich, he has the money, he has his own company, but that is not the same for us. We have to be practical, at the end of the day we need to be bringing the dough home. And its not like he has not been in the same type situation before. Before his company got off, he was in a similar situation (only a little better than our situation, my family is not the richest around, but we are not poor. You can say its stable). So I am expecting him to know better than to say things that are so irritating. Even though I know that what he says makes sense and that it will be good if I can follow. But it gets annoying when you come to feel that he seem to be making comments solely based on his perception that all of us are the same financially. I think he should try to be a little more tactful in his speech because what he says can not only be annoying, sometimes it does hurt a little.
Down with FYP
Sunday, April 6, 2008
Sydney by Diva
李玖哲 - 围墙
不知不觉又过了几天
我想我习惯了忽略
去忽略没你的时间
不近不远走在谁身边
我想我适应了一切
这一切没你的时间
某条路某条街 某首歌某间店
某种熟悉但如今 却刺眼
不碰触不跨越 为自己留一些 安全界线
谁都以为不听不看 也就没感觉
一转身 才发现 空气里面
依旧飘散着记忆的气味
谁有所谓或无所谓 也不能改变
原来是我 在爱上你的那瞬间
就困在围墙里面
某条路某条街 某首歌某间店
某种熟悉但如今 却刺眼
不碰触不跨越 为自己留一些 安全界线
谁都以为不听不看 也就没感觉
一转身 才发现 空气里面
依旧飘散着记忆的气味
谁有所谓或无所谓 也不能改变
原来是我 在爱上你的那瞬间
就困在围墙里面
谁都以为不听不看 也就没感觉
一转身 才发现 空气里面
依旧飘散着记忆的气味
谁有所谓或无所谓 也不能改变
原来是我 在爱上你的那瞬间
就困在围墙里面
多可悲 围墙都在 对不对
Saturday, April 5, 2008
Viwawa
Ps: I've added the link to Viwawa on this blog already, check it out, maybe next time can arrange an online mahjong session, wahahahaha.
Friday, April 4, 2008
Tired
H2H
Well Sean is a pretty good chap to talk heart to heart. Somehow, I just poured out a lot to him (of course its about the trip lah, have not gone to other stuff), although I still reserved some parts of my thought, but it is already a miracle that I actually said that much (soooooo unlike me). But I must say that it does feel pretty good to let out some feelings once in a while. The other party may not feel the same way, he might find all that I said as nonsense. But it does feel good that you can think that someone is willing to listen and just take in what you have to say. So I must say that the conservation in the car was pretty relieving. Ever since Alvin got together with Ash, I've more or less lost a close friend that I can pour my heart out to. He used to be the person I turn to when I'm in desperate need to pour out my thoughts to, but now he's got someone more important in his life. Well he's still one of my best friend around, but its just not the same anymore. Hmmmm, I think I better not get into the best friend issue in this entry. Maybe will blog about it in the future. But, yah, its not the same anymore. So I find that Sean has the potential to be a listener, he listens and gives some ideas and thought. CY is another great friend, he is someone you can engage in Heart to Heart as well. But I guess his image as being 无理头 does not help in this matter. Sometimes you really don't know whether he is really interested in listening to you stories. Maybe its because our speech more-ofthen-than-not revolves around non-serious and unimportant stuff. I blog more about friendships another time. This topic needs a little more in depth thought, hahahaha.
Okok, I think its time to end this entry now, its now a quarter to 7am, dawn is going to break any time now, think I better head to bed, I still a long day ahead (cannot wake up too late), will need to try to finish up my FYP today. Just one last thing, Fuck my prof, everytime see him I have so much to do. Asshole! After seeing him yesterday, suddenly my FYP has so much more to cover. Damn it! Gotta buck up, just less than a month more to the end of school life. 加油!!!!!!! Okie good night, erm I mean good morning. =)
Thursday, April 3, 2008
Europe planning
Well for anyone who actually bothers to follow this blog (Although I hate to admit it, but really I think no one reads all my crap), you'll would know that I'll be going to travel Europe for my grad trip. After the initial planning, I've come to realise that this is going to be a luxury backpacking trip. Initially we had estimated the entire cost to come to about 6k, but from the looks of things, I'm raising the estimated cost to about 7k. Well I guess the group that I'm going with is not really a live hard group. I have some experience in backpacking (sort of) during my time in China, so I know what it like is to live in less that comfortable situations just to save some cash but this group don’t seem to think that way. Saving the bits and pieces are of utmost importance when backpacking, especially when we're going to an expensive place like Europe and when we'll be there for close to 50 days. Below I shall analysis some things that I think can be done better. Of course when I try to voice out a little of my experience, they had their reasons for doing otherwise. So you can say that my suggestions were put to rest and the consequence is of course higher cost.
One of the problems that I have is the choice of booking all the hostels now. The reasons they gave was that because the time that we are going is considered a peak period, so they were worried that we would not be able to find a place to stay there if we didn’t book the hostels now. Can you imagine booking a month’s worth of hostels at this time. This is not the wisest thing to do during backpacking, the reason being that our schedules will all be locked by the hostel bookings. I can imagine ourselves rushing to each hostel to make sure that we manage to check in (because we’ve paid the deposit). Being foreign to that country, sometimes we have no idea how much we would want to see a country and we do not know if something urgent might crop up. So basically with all the hostels booked, we’ll have to make 100% sure that we follow the dates at the hostels accurately or else if one goes wrong, the entire schedule will break down. My suggestion, which was shot down, was to book the first week’s hostels, then we book the rest of the hostels while we are travelling there ie book as we travel. This gives us more flexibility and it will make things easier for us.
Another problem that I have is the fact that they didn’t book any overnight train rides. . This is the ultimate sin for backpacking. The reasons they gave for this is because we do not have enough time to check the train schedules and that we might have to change trains along the way, so if we miss a stop we might not know where we end up. This is just crap. They told me that they have decided that we will be taking the plane for any train ride that is more than 4 hrs to save time, wah!!! Because the plane ride is only 20 pounds as compared to the 36 pounds for the train ride. Excuse me, if you do your maths correctly, the 36 pounds includes your lodging (which is about S$50 a night) + transport. Getting on overnight trains not only saves on the lodging fees, you’ll also save a lot on travelling time. Already we have to make sure that we get to the hostels on time, which also means that we will probably have to take day train rides. Can you just see how much time will be wasted traveling? I can only imagine us rushing from place to place when we’re there, it will not be easy to take in a lot from this trip.
I guess I have a certain expectation of backpacking, and from my experience this is not really considered backpacking. Backpacking is not just about taking a few train rides to experience it and staying in hostels, it is a lot about have flexibility to enjoy the country and experience how people in a different country live during that short span of time there. Flying around in planes and rushing to get to hostels is definitely not backpacking, in fact its far from it, which is why I’m not expecting much from this trip this time. Initially I thought that DY will have much better idea of backpacking because he had been to Shanghai for GIP as well, and that he’s pretty well travelled. Well it seems that all the while they had been luxury travelers that this is probably the first they are trying out something like this. You can say that I’m a little disappointed, but what to do, everything is booked already, I know that I have not been heavily involved in the planning because I was busy with my report then (and because they always meet in school, which is so far away from me). Well I can’t change whatever has been set, I can only try to make the best of it. Hopefully we’ll be able to get something good out of this. One thing for sure, this trip is going to be fun. Going for a trip with friends is always a fun thing, I mean its not always that we’ll be able to do things like this. So here’s wishing us a great trip ahead!
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
Rename
Kidz
Okie back to today's topic on kids. Well not too long ago, It was just a few days back. I went for Qing ming with my family, and on the trip I met a few of my cousins. Well for those who know my family, well for my generation, its like differentiated into 2 different groups. I guess its this funny thing called age gap, the older kids (I'd like to think that I'm still a kid although I'm already 25) belong to 1 group and those below 16 seem to belong to another group of their own. To simplify things I'll split the people in my mum's side to the 2 groups.
Oldies: My bro, myself, Melyvn.
Youngsters: Tyrone (I have no idea if got the spelling correct), Jocelyn, Nicholas
These are the 2 basic groups around, of course you'll find that not everyone is included in the list. Well thats because there a number of others who just don't belong to any group. For example: Gerald (seem to be in a world of his own), the 3 from 4th uncle (who seem to be in their own worlds as well, but I guess their closer to the youngsters), not forgetting Qing Yang and Qing Long (I don't even know if I got their names correct), I don't even see them often, and of course Debbie, John, Ashley and Natalie who are constantly overseas thus not easy to put them in any group.
It seems that even though we are in the same generation, our thinkings differ a lot. Conflicting interest has resulted in us not having any common topics to talk about, so you can see easily that we are not as close. But thats not all, another thing that is bothering me is the way kids are being brought up nowadays. Maybe I'm just too old fashioned to say this, but I feel that kids that were brought up using the ways of my time (wah like I very old liao) tend to be more polite and courteous towards the older people. Like myself (Let me just say that I'm not trying to sell myself here ok, its just my observation), my group tend to listen to elders when they talk, and not rebut to everything that others say. Our actions just don't seem so rebellious. This is somewhat different from the kids nowadays. Now I'm seeing my younger cousins talk back to elders, hit their daddies while their dads are driving, arguing to almost everything that they don't see fit. In the early stages it may all seem like their pretty cute to talk that way, but as this continues, I just get pretty irritated because sometimes what I am trying to teach them is how they can progress in life. I'm not some life guru but I guess my existence in this planet thus far has rendered myself enough position to speak of some things about growing up. And really, I think something that is lacking in many of the kids nowadays is the ability to listen. Ideally children should learn to speak up, this will definitely be helpful to them in the future. But they should also master the art of listening. Sometimes it will do them good to just shut up and listen to what others have to say. It gets utmost annoying when you try hard to teach a value to someone and they don't listen. Well that being said, I am not the kids father, so in what position am I to teach them all these facts of life. Their mums and dads have even more experience than myself, so who am I to be doing all this. I just feel that as parents, they tend to love their children too much to scold them (what they call 爱的教育), they try to talk sense to them to make them understand. But seriously I don't believe in that, or maybe just to some extent. I still think that some form of caning and scolding is required in the upbringing of the child. If there is one thing I cannot stand, its children who don't behave and don't listen. I find that most parents nowadays pamper their kids too much, to the extent that they are overly protected from the realities of this world. I mean although child life is short-lived and as children they should be enjoying their childhood but whats the point of making them believe that they are princes and princesses living in castles, and whoever opposes them will have to beheaded. I think some values should be inculcated in them while they are still little. When they get a little older, it will be even more difficult to change the mindset that they have.
I guess I have to attribute my bitchiness to Imran, now I do get irritated sometimes when I find that things are not the way they are supposed to be. But what can I do when I encounter things like this. If I speak out it might strain my relationship with my relatives and I might just get my arteries choked and I'll be vomiting blood because these brats don't listen, if I don't speak up I just can't bear to see the young ones degrade themselves further (they are still my family).
Haiz, the sad truth about life, sometimes its just difficult to be Mr Nice Guy.
Tuesday, April 1, 2008
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